As I watched this psychopath over the years, I witnessed his complete disassociation with his children. He was totally unaware of his connection with his children, community or his effect on any of them. It was as if this psychopath was playing a game…the parenting game. He played the role of father without emotion and connection. His words to his children sounded right at times, but the meaning behind the words was distorted and corrupted.
His obsession with control became a dysfunction and a disease. This obsessive preoccupation with control traumatized his children. He made them feel inferior…he needed to as this allowed him to feel morally superior. It was conditional love in all its agony. He could not recognize the children as individuals. He neglected their true nature.
He fought hard to keep his position of power over the children as they grew older. When the children, turned into young adults, they began to question him and being a psychopath, he retaliated with demeaning comments, lies, judgments on their character, verbal abuse and attacked their self esteem regularly.
There is no happy ending to report for these young adults yet, although I hold out hope that as they distance themselves from their psychopathic father, they will eventually find themselves in the company of people whom they can trust and will slowly rebuild their shattered selves.